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Wir waren so faziniert voneinander und haben daraufhin entschlossen, Abendessen in der Nähe zu greifen. It hurts, but I have to be this as he knows he played me the hardest. He broke up with me but the way we glad up was all my fault. Retrieved February 15, 2017. How can you not love him. Let it go to hold on, will just create further loss.
This page is set up as both an awareness forum where people can come together and share their experiences from having been exposed to a sociopath in a safe environment and receive constructive, passionate feedback letting them know that having been conned was not their fault. This page is about validation of your inner self; engage, educate, empower! You might date a person who seldom picks up the telephone to call, or you may find yourself dating someone who calls twenty times a day. Frequency of contact is not necessarily an accurate indication of sociopathic behavior, but the pattern of contact just might be. Those with sociopathic behaviors may go days without contacting their partner, and then may suddenly go through a period where they contact their partner incessantly. Lack of life-long friends. A common misconception is that sociopaths are reclusive loners, but in reality many sociopaths can appear to be quite popular. If you suspect you are dating a sociopath, don't count the number of friends that your partners has, but instead count the number of life-long friends your partner has. Sociopaths seldom come from stable families. It is a smart idea to examine the background of a person's family before you decide to date them. Since sociopathic behavior patterns are often learned in early age, trace an indicidual's family history back to childhood. Was your partner physically abused as a child? Did your partner come from a broken home or a dysfunctional family? These things great increase a person's chances of becoming a sociopath. Using the official diagnostic version from The DSM-IV-TR and The American Journal of Psychiatry diagnostic manuals and my own training and experience, here's some help in understanding the sociopath. When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. They are outraged by insignificant matters, yet remain unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises! They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may eventually dominate and humiliate their victims. I had decades of close exposure to a sociopath who destroyed everyone who cared about him, and there's not a hint of remorse in his behavior, attitude, or conversation. As a matter of interest, this particular person talks like he has been victimized by everyone in his life! Each woman he has had a with in the last seven years has eventually tired of his bid for pity and his hair-trigger temper and each one has exited rapidly. Let's say you, like me, are a Christian woman who has met a man who professes to also be a Christian. Juggling all the demands of parenting, job, maintaining a house, a yard, and possibly a can leave a woman emotionally depleted. Am I so needy that I am now vulnerable? Do I ever get the that he has submitted his life and will to God? Has he forgiven those who hurt him? Are there any signs that he is learning or growing, or is he constantly playing for my pity? Does this man appear to be my ideal, my fantasy, my answer to an inner craving for attention? Am I tempted to chuck reality in favor of feeling flirty, experiencing intense passion, and escaping from the mundane, ordinariness of life? In short, are less important to him than my body? Does he affirm my dreams and treasure my personhood all that I am, with my shadow side, imperfections and ordinariness? Yes, he's funny, charming, intelligent, and successful. It's hard to forget those moves, and it seems to be dominating my thinking. Is who I am getting lost in this frenetic high? Is he doing just enough to earn my , so that when my suspicions are raised, I feel foolish pressing for answers? Has he given me his ome address or phone number? Does he take me only to lunch, but never to dinner? Does he return cell phone calls any time, even on the weekends? If so, have I called the church he attends to see if his recent address still lists him as married? Have I checked for the divorce record at the county clerk building? Have I questioned others about his singleness? Does he have a cute little way of belittling me in front of others? Are his jokes derisive of women? Yes, we are luckier than those women who have been murdered by sociopaths; however, may I remind you that there are many forms of death? A man who kills my spirit, robs me of my dignity and my will to live is just as dangerous, in my book! And if I marry him? Well, I don't think I have to spell out that one! Girls, the bottom line is be self-aware and self-protective. And above all, don't expect any man to fill all your needs. That only makes you more vulnerable to the unscrupulous men out there. Have a wide circle of friends, stay involved in church and other group activities, and don't forget Who you can trust the most. Don't lose touch with Him! I know, from experience, He will protect you. April Lorier This was a great post! I caught him cheating with two other women. He spent 3 years studying me and i always pushed away because my instincts always told me too,he waited until i was the most vulnerable to really take out the manipulating charming skills and I finally gave it up. Gladly the relationship only lasted 8 mnths,If it was'nt for him sleeping with one of my sibilings I would of been heading down the road of hell because the illusion of love these people create can greatly dupe you and I was even thinking about moving him in with me. Ladies please pull out your scanning HD binoculars before dating because these men are evil evil evil.... I, unfortunately, was a victim of such a person for 15 yrs. I always suspected something was different about him, but couldnt quite put my finger on it. He would cheat, because he thought I was cheating, so he felt if he cheated on me, we would be even. Then of course, his stories kept changing for the reasons why he cheated. We separated numerous times, 1 was for over 2 yrs, I took him back as he begged me. His behvior didnt change. I found several video tapes of him and ex gf's, and even one of him having sex with a teen girl. He loves to boast that everyone loves him, he even turned my family against me. The more I read this blog, the better I feel because I thought I was losing my mind. I now realize, its him thats crazy and not me Wow. I feel like I've been enlightened today. I also feel like a complete and totally IDIOT for falling into the world of lies and manipulation over and over again. I've always been a very social and outgoing person. I left my husband and ended up with someone even worse after. He promised me he would give me a better life, that I deserved to be happy and taken care of. We moved in together right away. He didn't have a job. I got him one. Two tumultuous years later we were expecting a baby. I tried to make it work. I have been a work-from-home-mom supporting the family since before my son was 6 months old. He can take the littlest fights and blow them into the most major things twisting everything to have me believe that it's really all MY fault and I am too sensitive. I call him Dr. Jekyl and Mr Hyde sometimes cause you flip a switch and set him off. A glaze comes over his eyes and it's like he's not even there anymore. He never shows and care, concern, or remorse when he hurts me he's not physical, instead he attacks me with his words. He knows just how to make me cry..... I finally got the guts to stand up for myself and my son who wasn't even two... I was doing some silly dating until he convinced me that he wanted and needed his family back after all he had no friends or family to speak of Oh, but..... Hasn't even been two months and it's back to the same old bullshit. Not going to therapy. Constant Migraines and foul moves. Involving our son in our fights. Taking no responsibility and blaming me for everything and saying I am the one who needs to change. I am so embarrassed and confused and lost. I tried so hard to make it work again for our son.... I just want to be happy. I just want to be free of the constant manipulation and mind games. I feel like I am the one going crazy. Anonymous It is not just men either. I was forced to walk out of a job recently because a younger female colleague was targeting me with constant flirting. The intensity began to increase but it was noticeable that she chose moments when no one else was around - even to do the normal things in life like saying 'Hi! Unfortunately, I knew nothing about sociopathic behaviour at the time and I falied to blow the whistle until it was much too late I told another female colleague towards the end but even then, it was too late. I tried to take the whole thing out of work through a social media site and at least get her to define what was going on. I guess you are already ahead of me having read the above - she blocked me without even replying even though I only mentioned friendship. It is clear in hindsight that she did not want me to have any power within the interactions although I did also suspect she may have had some poor advice. Looking back, I never had a chance from the moment this all began and whilst walking out of a job that I liked was hardly ideal, I had little choice. Indeed, the management took a 'talk to the hand' attitude when I finally revealed why I had left, which goes to show that it is still difficult for males to be believed even in the 21st Century. Anonymous Trust me when I tell you that this does not just happen to people in their twenties or thirties. You can be in your fifties and still get sucked in to the love bombing. It's not always someone you just meet. In my case it was someone I had known for over 25 years, lost touch, reconnected. Never in a million years would have suspected. Really didn't even no what to look for. Always associated sociopath with serial killers etc. I believed everything he said, even gave him a second chance when he cheated. It can happen in an instant. Literally one day you are their life, remember they can only live vicariously through some one else, the next you don't even exist. Its like you have sucker punched. Sociopaths cannot be alone. They would just as well have sex with a tree stump than be alone. Trust me before they dupe you there is always someone else in play. Sociopaths lack the ability to feel and love like normal people do. Everything they do has an agenda behind it. All of their lifes tragedies are always some elsrs fault. When caught they have the ability to turn things around and even turn on tears to make the true victim feel guilty. Just remember these people cannot,I repeat, cacannot be fixed. There is no pill to get rid of the problem. Never ever best yourself up for falling prey to one, for that is what we are to them... Remember too it has nothing to do with intelligence. I have a Masters Degree and am very successful and I did not see it coming. Also remember that once YOU are rid of the human vampire, yes I said YOU. Even if he duped you, you are rid of him.... You can in no way ever engage him again. Delete him completely from your life. Chances are, if like me, you actually call him a sociopath to his face, you have now made him, you are now a threat and he will avoid you. However he will make attempts to discredit you for one reason out of fear you will out him and a second to claim you are a Psycho strokes his ego and he will use this with his next victim to make himself more appealing. Never make attempts to warn people. It only makes you look like the vengeful, bitter ex, the new person wont believe you because they are being love bombed, just as you were and most of all you are giving the sociopath attention, which is what they thrive on, good or bad its attention. Hope this heps anyone out there that is or has gone through this. Because a break up with a sociopath is not like a break up with a normal person. Dont try to make sense of an illusion, you will drive yourself crazy. This is my good friends ex narc hole husband to a T. A real jerk of jerks. Con man all the way! Talk about who the stupid ones were? For tolerating it, he never liked the word no. He seriously thought he was God. He got himself in so much trouble financially, sexually, emotionally, and caused everyone else toxic spew damage the only thing he could do was stay in La La Land and live in complete and utter denial. There is no other word to describe it. Selfish, self-serving, manipulative, exploitive, coercive, evil monsters that have not 1 oz of remorse, empathy, or any normal human feeling for anyone but their own selfish demands and agendas. Anonymous Mine was a human vampire, you are so right they don't like to be alone. Because they need constant praise, admiration, being waited on, catered to, sexed, ego stroked, worst punishment or treatment you can give a narcissist is to totally ignore them. They can't stand it. LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME WHAT ABOUT ME is their claim to fame. Annoying to the point of insane. If I didn't give mine attention from the moment he rolled out of bed until he rolled back into bed constantly he would go cheat or threaten to cheat. Ridiculous behavior, immature, reckless behavior. He couldn't handle real life, real bills, real issues. He wanted play time all the time. No serious time only screw off at everyone else expense. Umpteen headaches, bills, issues with all the kids of who's going where who's doing what, no stability that doesn't surprise me. Blame shifting, gas lighting, tantrums, the whole nine. No thanks, been there done that not doing it again. As far as I'm concerned this little young chickadees did me a HUGE FAVOR, they want a man that cheats on his wife Please TAKE HIM. Hasta lluego, don't let the door split ya where the God lord hit ya. Let them see what it's like to put up with the lies, the money issues, the other women, possible STD's, creditors, pissed off clients, no good sleep, stomach in knots, the promises he can't and never will keep, him writing checks his ass can't afford, the drinking, the drug abuse, the porn abuse, this addiction that addiction. Life is good without him wrecking it. 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